Loud Opinions
14 May 2011 No Comments
in • Happiness, • Inspiration, • Life, • psychology, • Self Tags: communication, happiness, love, • psychology, • Self
I want to share one of my observations with you. I hope that it will help you to be more loved, more confident, less afraid and less insecure.
I am sure you have met people who are very opinionated. There is nothing wrong with that. Opinions state our preferences, they let us understand what other people like and how they are. What I want to point at is negative opinions. A negative opinion sounds as a criticism and a person spends a reasonable amount of time drilling on it. It is never a sentence or two and it doesn’t sound nice. Usually such opinions are about other people’s talents (which we don’t have) or good things (that we try to put in a negative light because we don’t have them, but want to).
You might disagree with me but I believe that criticizing something or somebody doesn’t make you more likable or lovable. Criticism carries a hidden message about your own insecurities and fears. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be like another person or wanting to have something you don’t have. I find it more aspiring when people instead of criticizing admit that they would like to be like another person, have another person’s talent or have the item. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
It is more powerful to be honest with yourself and others. It makes you more lovable, likable and admirable. People might not say that loud but the truth is that criticism creates more insecurities and if we have a choice to spend time with a person who we know criticizes more than compliments and a person who is honest and not afraid to admit that she/he is not perfect, who do you think we are more attracted to as a person and want to spend time with? Who makes us feel better about ourselves and who can we trust more?
Nobody is perfect and everybody knows it. There will be always somebody better than you so get over it and start living your life with a smile in your heart. There will be always people who will criticize you in front of you and behind your back. You shouldn’t worry about that. Just remember, every criticism tells more about a person who is criticizing..
My advice is: find a chunk of compassion in your heart and carry it around. Whenever you face a criticism about yourself or something/body else, inhale deep and let compassion do its work. You might be surprised how much good it can do and how much more love you will grow in your heart shaped garden ~
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